“Judge not, and you will not be judged; condemn not, and you will not be condemned; forgive, and you will be forgiven; 38 give, and it will be given to you. Good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put into your lap. For with the measure you use it will be measured back to you.”
He also told them a parable: “Can a blind man lead a blind man? Will they not both fall into a pit? A disciple is not above his teacher, but everyone when he is fully trained will be like his teacher. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Brother, let me take out the speck that is in your eye,’ when you yourself do not see the log that is in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take out the speck that is in your brother’s eye.
The closer we are to someone, the easier it is for us to see their faults. When those faults differ from the ones we see in our selves (or sometimes because they reflect our own faults!) we can become hard, critical and judgemental. This is not the way that God wants His church to live and thus not the way for man and wife to live, either.
God would not have us concern ourselves with the faults of our spouse, but would rather have us focus on our own need for sanctification. This is not to say we condone sin in others – the Bible has Scriptures that tell us how to confront sin – but we are not the Judge. God, alone, is the Judge of man. Let us leave the judging up to Him!
Let us not judge our spouse, but rather offer prayer and support. Let our lives be godly. Let us concern ourselves with what God wants to speak into our lives.
My action for today: Focus on my character development, not on Glenn’s. Focus on Glenn’s strengths and be strength for his weaknesses.
My prayer for today: Lord, help me to love Glenn in his weaknesses. Help me be strength where he needs it, just as he strengthens me in my areas of weakness. Enable me to be a helpmate to him – sturdy and true. Let me be a rock he can lean against, even as we stand on the Rock of our Salvation. Keep me focused on growing in Christ-likeness for myself. In Jesus’ name, Amen.